Its not the person that hurt you, its the situation

Okay well you know how when your going out with someone and something happens and you break up? then they one that got dumped runs to their friends and say "he hurt me" "she hurt me" well yeah 'they' broke your heart. to you maybe but i look at it this way. if they say they wont hurt you. trust them on that. sure a little thing here and there might sting. but thats not really them is it? its the situation that hurt.

in my case it is. the guy i 'can't' be with. its complicated. he wants to be with me too. but were not together.
why you may ask? because im still in school and my parents dont neccessarily approve. he respects that decision. which i think is the most awesome thing. but it hurts a little because we're not actually together. its not him. its simply the situation. the situation of parents not approving.

so think about when you say he hurt me or she hurt me. its not really them its the situation that did. so they kept their word they didnt hurt you did they? its whatever happened that  messed up the relationship...

okay so he called you a whore. but why did he call you a whore? was it because you cheated on him? seee HE didnt hurt you. the situation did that hurt. it was your fault because you cheated. so you hurt him by cheating on him....he didnt hurt you.
thats why you should NEVER cheat on anyone. even if your talking to someone. dont call someone else babe, cutie or whatever. yeah i understand your not going out but i mean what would happen if the person your talking to saw? the situation hurts

one time it was the situation that made my friend upset the one where him and i couldnt be together. i thought i did something. but it was just the situation. we still talk. we still plan to go out in the future:)

so yeah when you think someone hurt you dont say that THEY hurt you. say that it was the situation it makes the healing process go by faster.

and of course you have your friends to hold you together. so lean on them. and dont let them hurt you because they really havent it was the situation. thats what i always tell myself and it keeps me from getting upset and saying things i shouldnt mean.